Last Summer, I wrote about being on the edge of the cliff at a time that I was 100% certain I was going to be moving out of my home within a week. In that post, I discussed the range of emotions I was going through as I prepared for that transition.
The thing is, it didn’t happen.
But it is now.
Before I go on, I’d like to offer a free lesson on selling or leasing real estate: It’s not done until the check is in hand. Period. Class dismissed.
This loft was basically a revolving door last Summer and Fall, with multiple buyers, interested renters, and property investors going on and on about how much they loved the place and how they were eager to move in ASAP. One by one each of these fizzled into oblivion while I was left feeling defeated and confused.
After all, I live in a seriously kick ass loft that is not something easy to replicate anywhere else. Nonetheless, the options that were on the table were just not right.
Finally, in November I accepted an application for a tenant that wanted to sign a lease and move in early February. And here we are.
For 3 months, I’ve known that this was happening. The difference this time being that there was a signed document and security deposit. Done deal.
People kept asking me what I was going to do and where I was going to go. And I really didn’t have a solid answer for them.
My ‘go with the flow’ mentality is being put to the test right now, and in 4 days, we’ll see just how easy-going I am in actuality. I’m staying with a friend nearby that has an extra bedroom while I figure out what comes next for me. In effect, I’m going from living alone in a 1500 square foot loft that also doubles as my office to a 10′ x 10′ room in a condo with 2 other guys.
Yep, this is going to be a big transition for me. Huge, actually.
For those of you who have followed along for a while, I still have my eye on Portland, but there is some unfinished business here that needs to be sorted out before I make any big moves. Who knows what will happen this Spring and Summer though – we’ll see.
In the past week, I‘ve gone through a process of purging and discarding 2 decades worth of files, paperwork, etc. that had accumulated in well-hidden places in my office. This is the 3rd purge I’ve done on this scale, with this one actually getting to the last of the ‘stuff’ that’s been hidden away carefully in boxes, files, etc.
My carefully organized, orderly desk was piled high with papers to be shredded, while boxes of recycling and bags of previously shredded files formed a border that started feeling like a fortress over the course of 4 days.
Needless to say, this took a LOT longer than I anticipated.
It’s exciting to know that I don’t have to do this again. No more paycheck stubs from jobs I had in high school. No more tax booklets from the 1990s. No more return envelopes from utility bills I had from 5 apartments ago.
Eliminating the old crap I had been carrying around with me was a massive undertaking.
Although the volume of stuff wasn’t that great, and could easily be boxed up and moved on to the next place, I wanted to deal with it once and for all. No more hiding stuff in files and boxes. It was time for it to go.
So, in just a few days, I’ll pack up the remaining stuff that I’m taking with me and move my pared down belongings to Midtown where I’ll rest my head for a bit. I’ll share more about this process as it unfolds, but for now, I’m feeling pretty good about it.
This is a big experiment for me and the results are likely not going to be known for a few months. But I’m willing to give it a shot.
What about you? How does this compare with what you’ve experienced in your own life? Are you making any big leaps this year?
It’s gotta feel great exfoliating all the years of “stuff”! Congrats on getting the place rented and good luck. I still want to connect on your Gulf project… I’m becoming more involved in our client down there and its starting to make sense to me how we might be able to work together.
Can’t wait to see where you end up. I remember clearly the days before I left Australia forever.
I feel your pain…people LOVE my mountain home yet thus far have gone elsewhere. Bummer when I’m READY to move….but….this too shall pass. I do understand what you’re going through and have found myself sorting through a lot of stuff in this 4000 square foot beautiful space….while the mountains peek in the windows and keep me company as I let go of the old and create space for a new part of my journey.
Big breaths, Brandon! Best thing we ever did prior to moving to South Africa was purge and purge and purge. Digitized the musics and movies, only buy e-books (with a few exceptions). And now 2 years later and the prospect of switching to our 4th house since landing in Cape Town, I’m ready to get rid of even more.
And yes, we learned all those property lessons too.I think you’ve got it nailed – open to the possibilities and detaching from what’s holding you back.All the best! Looking forward to seeing you at WDS 2 🙂
Kudos, B. Once you leap, things fall into place. As for purging, it’s an ongoing thing for awhile until you streamline to your comfort level, then dig in and dump more. I left ATL in Sept 2010, leaving behind a mountain of sentimental belongings in my parents basement.
Over time, I worked with my Dad to sell most of it while I was away — random housewares, furniture I clung to for one reason or another, a collection of 600+ cds (got about $600 out of them, believe it or not), etc. When I came home for the holidays this past December, I purged the rest of it… files, clothes and all. Pared it down to a small stack of nostalgic memorabilia and some artwork I’d love to display again one day.
It feels good. When you’re on a path to open up your life, you need space from these material belongings weighing you down. Best of luck and keep us posted on the transformation!
I always get in a purging mode at this time of year. I too have pay stubs and credit card statements from long ago. I’m always uncertain of how long you are supposed to keep that stuff. It’s going to be an adjustment for you from living alone and having all the privacy you want to living with roommates. I wish you all the best! I think Portland sounds like a good place for you.
Hey Brandon, I’m so excited for you! Congrats on finally getting someone in your loft! I’ve really enjoyed keeping up with your progress.
From the tenant… your place has such a cool vibe that I only got a glimpse of last November. I now know it exudes ‘Brandon’ as is written in so many of your posts. We’ll be great stewards of your place, come back to reminisce anytime you feel a tug at your heart to do so. xxoo