It’s in times of loss that we typically step back and think about the meaning of our own lives and our connections with loved ones. Thoughts of things we wish we had said or feelings we wish we had conveyed haunt us as we attempt the futile task of rewriting history in our minds.
Yesterday, I lost a friend, and right on queue, I’m replaying the last conversation I had with him in my mind. It’s not that I have any huge regrets, but there isn’t closure on that conversation, and it was on me to send an email to punctuate it.
Bryan was my partner in the first real business I started. I learned a lot from him, and grew as a person and as a leader while working alongside him for 4 years. We didn’t see eye to eye on many things, but we always had mutual respect for each other.
And I always knew he had my back, no matter what.
He died doing the thing he loved – racing motorcycles. In the 15 years I’ve known him, nothing has ever made him come alive quite like this. He knew that he was pushing it out on the track, but he loved living life ‘on the ragged edge.’ He found joy in this, and ultimately he met his fate this way.
We all have things that light us up, and we all make decisions on how much to include these things in our lives. On Saturday, I asked the question ‘what lights you up’ on Facebook. Here are a few of the responses I received:
- Children Laughing
- Stand up paddle boarding with dolphins
- Reading a book under a tree on a sunny day
- People who care
- Sending out inspirational messages
Had Bryan responded, I have no doubt he would have included track racing on the list. So, today, I’m celebrating his life and his determination to live it to the fullest every day. I’m thankful for his friendship and for the opportunity to have learned so much from him over the years. He helped me become the man I am today.
I’m a big believer in The Power of Now, and I strive to live my life with no regrets. We aren’t guaranteed any future, but we do have Now. In fact, Now is all there is.
What about you? What lights you up? Do you have enough of it in your life Now?